About Me & Holistic Lifestyle to Include Dietary Concerns, Philosophical Concerns, Religious Concerns, & Psycho-social Concerns.


This site is for Wing Chun enthusiasts and for those who seek a well-rounded, holistic, healthy lifestyle.
















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My Experience in Wing Chun:

I have been studying & practicing Wing Chun for seven years.  I have experience sparing in Wing Chun, but of more importance I have experience in full-contact (protective gear worn) sparing against Martial Artists from a variety of Martial Arts backgrounds.  I am not yet a Sifu or “Master” of Wing Chun; I am still a disciple of Wing Chun, but in this day in age when true street fighting with NO RULES is completely illegal, how can anyone claim to be a true “master” of any form of Martial Art?


My Philosophy on Martial Art:

I believe that Bruce Lee is correct when he said that a “style” is a “crystallization” to be avoided because the purpose of Martial Art is to express YOURSELF through (meditative) movement whether practicing martial arts by oneself or whether in “hand-to-hand”combat. This is why I call it “Progressive Wing Chun” instead of “Traditional Wing Chun.” Practitioner’s Wing Chun forms should evolve & progress over time.



The Purpose of this Website:

I hope that my website is helpful to other Wing Chun enthusiasts and inspires new people to be Wing Chun enthusiasts.  I also hope that people who are concerned with their holistic well-being use this website as a reference for purposes of self-maintenance and self-improvement  (self-cultivation)Wing Chun is not only a pragmatic way to lethally defend oneself, but it is also a way of life that promotes balance, healing, and a healthy lifestyle by empowering its practitioners with the ability to see life from a positive perspective and empowering its practitioners with the insight to make positive choices.



My Lineage in Wing Chun & Martial Arts:

What is my Lineage of Wing Chun? Bruce Lee explained that ‘The common problem with Hong Kong today is that (through lineage) people become fixated on doing a certain style in a very particular way, which then becomes “The Law” and cannot be changed.’ He believed that martial arts should be an individual experience: “How can I express myself honestly & completely through the art of movement whether it be in hand-to-hand combat or in daily life?”  For this reason I do not claim to be of any ‘lineage other than my own interpretation of the forms of Wing Chun. I will reveal that my Sīfú is Brenden Estrada:  I could not have asked God to send me a more proficient & competent leader & guide for life! Sīfú Brenden Estrada learned Wing Chun after studying Eight Animal Kung Fu for over twenty years, so my interpretation of Wing Chun is not entirely a traditional version of Wing Chun; my interpretation of Wing Chun contains aspects of Eight Animal Kung Fu in it, especially that of the Kung Fu “animal” called the “Dragon-Snake.”




Who Am I, and Who Will I Become?


I subscribe to the spiritual faith of being a traditional (NOT modernistic) Gnostic Christian.  However, I also strongly believe in the philosophy of Buddhism.  True Buddhists do not believe in any such concept as “self” or a permanent identity due to the rapid changes that take place within a person.  Although I recognize the drastic changes occurring within myself, I do have a grasp of who I am in this particular moment, and I believe that since I understand the importance of embracing the changes within myself and using meditation and life’s teachings to guide my internal energy (Qi / Chi) towards becoming something more than I presently am (towards becoming my “Higher Self” – which is always evolving), I do not feel that it is a contradiction to answer two questions:  #1:  Who am I right now?  #2:  Who will I allow myself to become?


Who Am I?


My biggest passion in life is my practice of Wing Chun.  Prior to learning Wing Chun I tried to learn another style of Kung Fu only to discover that I had no interest in it because I felt no connection to it:  I could not identify with it.  Once I started learning Wing Chun I was immediately and overpoweringly drawn towards learning everything I could about Wing Chun.  The reason I was so powerfully driven to learn all that I could about Wing Chun is because I felt emotionally, intellectually, physically, and spiritually connected to Wing Chun.  This is a profound point to make because I define “love” as a combination of emotional, intellectual, physical, and spiritual identification.  By using the word ‘identification’ I mean that when you love someone or something (your “passion” in life) you either see some of yourself in the object of your affection/your true passion —– and/or you see some of what you wish to become in the object of your affection/your true passion.  Wing Chun is my true passion because I literally identify with every aspect of the art form:  In the art of Wing Chun I initially saw what and who I wanted to become, and after practicing Wing Chun for seven years and combining the concepts of Wing Chun with the concepts that I very recently learned through a rigorous recovery program, I can now answer authentically and honestly that I do in fact (now) live up to the ethical, moral, and even the spiritual requirements that are to be met by anyone who can truthfully claim to be an authentic practitioner of the art of Wing Chun.


According to legend, a Buddhist nun named Ng Mui was inspired to create the art form of “Wing Chun” after watching a crane block the attacks (strikes) of a snake by using the crane’s wings at certain angles, and Ng Mui also conceptualized the art of Wing Chun by observing the way the snake struck at the crane with incredible speed and absolute precision in a straight-line attack.  Unlike all other forms of Kung Fu, Wing Chun is not purely based on the way the snake moves, the crane moves, or the way any other animal moves:  Wing Chun is based on physics, geometry, and anatomy.



The shortest distance between two points is a straight line so Wing Chun does not utilize round-house punches, spinning “back” kicks, or any other form of grandiose / flashy form of attack that is not implemented in a straight line along the shortest path between one’s hand, elbow, foot or knee — and the specific target of the attack.  Bruce Lee brought Wing Chun from China to America and soon became famous for his straight-line one-inch and four-inch punch because they were powerful enough to throw his opponents several feet back from where they initially stood, with the result of the opponents landing either in a carefully placed chair or flat on their backs!  So, it is very safe to say that his true power resided in the shortest, straight-line distance between his solar plexus (located at the center of the chest just below the nipple line) and his specific target.  To see a demonstration of Bruce Lee’s one inch punch and to learn more about his philosophy regarding martial arts please link to the following page:  Bruce Lee.



I will only give one example of how geometry plays an important role in the art of Wing Chun:  There is a block frequently used in Wing Chun which is called the “Bong Sao.”  To correctly implement a Bong Sao Block, the Wing Chun practitioner’s elbow is raised above his or her hand (typically with the line from the practitioner’s shoulder to the elbow being pointed at the opponent’s head-level, and the arm is bent at an angle that is approximately 160 degrees so that when the opponent’s fist is blocked by the Bong Sao, the opponent’s fist and arm slide along the angle of the Bong Sao such that the opponent’s punch is redirected to either side of the Wing Chun practitioner’s body thereby missing the practitioner entirely.   Here is a picture of the Bong Sao Block in use:

Ip Man on Left side using a Bong Sao Block against Bruce Lee on Right side using a Son-Fist attack.
Ip Man on Left side using a Bong Sao Block against Bruce Lee on Right side using a Son-Fist attack.



The majority of vital and fragile organs of the human body are found in or near an approximately centralized line (called the “center-line“) which extends from the middle of your head straight down to the ground.  Examples of some of these vital and fragile organs include the eyes, the nose, the throat (trachea), the heart, the solar plexus (where the diaphragm can be accessed with a strike), the testicles, the knee caps, (from the front) and the spinal cord (from the back).


Granted, these are all tangible / concrete applications of the concepts / principles upon which Wing Chun is founded, however these same concepts / principles can and should be used to represent very abstract components of the human experience and life in general, which is exactly how the nature of Wing Chun plays a major part of my identity (who I now am).


Following this line of thinking, the concept of a straight line attack (the shortest distance between two points) also applies to accomplishing objectives and solving problems, as does the concept of the “center-line.”  Many of us have gone through our lives taking the “scenic route – around” our problems by calling in sick to work because work caused us to experience anxiety, drinking alcohol to avoid dealing with whatever the real problem was, and so on.   However, after traveling along this “scenic” route for a very long duration of my life I decided, recently, that it was time to take a direct approach to working through my emotional “stuck-points” ¹ in a rigorous recovery program by writing out every last detail of the traumas (“Trauma Narratives”) that I have incurred throughout my childhood and adult life, and I allowed myself to reconnect to the raw emotions of these traumatic experiences by reading these “trauma narratives” out loud.  In other words, I finally decided to take the shortest most direct path between where I was in my life prior to entering the recovery program, and my goal of interpersonal success in overcoming my own personal traumas and the negative (unhelpful) coping mechanisms that I have used for so may years I directly faced the origin of my fears.  What I discovered from this experience is that, indeed, The shortest distance between two points is a straight line, which is where my true power resides.  I call this direct path the “enlightened path.”  This enlightened path is now a permanent part of my identity because I will use this approach to accomplish goals and overcome problems as I move forward in life.


We are not defined by our memories or past behavior; we are defined by what we now do. ~ Ghost in a Shell (2017):





Now I will explain how the snake and the crane are metaphorically part of my identity.  I will also use the Chinese mythical animal called the “dragon” which is from a style of Kung Fu called “Eight Animal Kung Fu” to metaphorically explain my newly found identity.



The snake, or more specifically, the “ball python,” is not (in the true sense of the term) a “predator” because the ball python does not hunt down its food.  Rather, the age-old cliché of “Don’t tread on me” is a much more accurate way of viewing the behavior of the ball python because the ball python typically finds a “safe place” to coil up so that its rear-side is protected by a rock, tree or any other component of nature that serves as a barrier between the python and those who seek to prey upon the python.  The front of the python (its head) is typically the only part of the python that is slightly exposed, just enough for the python to have a very clear view of its surroundings.  The ball python observes its surroundings for impending threats and for potential food.  Only when someone invades the ball python’s personal space / boundary does the ball python strike out at its enemy or its food.   This directly relates to my identity, not because I am awaiting to attack pray, but because I too am an observer, I too have personal boundaries, and I too will protect myself if someone crosses my personal space / boundaries without first receiving permission to do so.   This is a major component of my new identity because from the age of nine years old all the way up until I acquired treatment in the recovery program, I almost always allowed those with harmful intentions to cross my personal boundaries, and I almost always ended up getting very hurt by the situation that was transpiring.  Now I have very well-defined personal boundaries and I am willing to stand up for myself.  I am also an observer, like the ball python:  I observe situations cautiously before I speak up or intervene in any manner, and I enjoy observing not for the soul purpose of protecting myself, but because I enjoy the nature of observing.  I observe the way the wind blows through the leaves of trees, I observe the way people interact with each other, and I enjoy silently observing many other aspects of life.  This is a part of my newly discovered identity.



There is another age-old adage which states something to the effect of “pick your fights carefully.”  In life it is an inherent fact that on occasion I will encounter those who intend to harm me and are also more powerful than me in one way or another.  When the crane perceives that she or he is threatened and overpowered, the crane will take flight to an area of safety.  As part of my new identity I am confident that I will use prudent discretion to know which battles are worth fighting, and which battles are not wise to take on myself, and when it is necessary to remove myself from a volatile situation by escaping to an area of safety.



Snake’s Perspective:

The snake observes specific details of its environment because it is on the ground viewing a tiny piece of the bigger picture.  By observing a tiny piece of a bigger picture I can use inductive reasoning to make an assessment of what the nature of the bigger picture truly is.


Crane’s Perspective:

The crane has a “bird’s eye” perspective on the larger picture as it flies high in the sky. I use this crane’s perspective to stop me from getting lost in the details of any given situation.



The mythical Chinese dragon is known by the traditional Chinese culture for being very powerful, very wise, and very intuitive.  I now recognize these commendable characteristics in my own new identity.


There is a key factor of critical importance in both the practice of Wing Chun and in my new identity:  I must master the art of meditation and the art of mindfulness, ideally combined together.  There is what I refer to as “meditation while holding still” in which I find a comfortable and relaxed position to sit or lay in while I mediate, but there is also what I call the art of “meditation in motion” which is what I use when I am practicing my Wing Chun forms.  I now believe that it is absolutely possible to become so proficient at the art of “meditation in motion” that I can infinitely, continuously, and increasingly reach towards the goal of being in a continuous state of “mindful meditation” throughout every waking moment of every day, and it is entirely possible to be continuously in a state of “meditation while holding still” all through the night as I sleep, which will allow my hippocampus to correctly process any thoughts, concerns, and emotions that are currently on my mind now that I am not self-medicating with alcohol which shuts down the ability of the hippocampus to process information because alcohol inhibits REM sleep:  My thorough understanding of how badly alcohol affected my mind-set (and my decisions) is also a critical component of my new identity because  I am no longer defined as a “drunk.”  I am now partially defined as a previous alcohol user who is continuously and actively engaged in my own sobriety and in a well-balanced, healthy lifestyle that contributes to society in a positive way whenever the opportunity is discovered to do so.


Wing Chun is not all-encompassing when it comes to defining my identity.  I am also compassionate, empathetic, caring, full of grace which I happily and willfully extend to both myself and others, and I am now a man of ethical, prudent discretion, sound judgment, and dignity in my journey towards self-actualization guided by a strong internal moral compass.


I also understand that what I have typed on this page is not an exhaustive description of who I am because just as a rock has atoms in its composition with electrons traveling in every possible direction, simultaneously, at several times the speed of light and consequently the rock is undergoing an infinite and continuous state of change . . . I too am undergoing an infinite and continuous state of change.  I embrace these changes, and I now guide these changes so that they are changes of progression and spiritual evolution.  I do so by using all the tools that I have acquired not only in my time in the recovery program but by using tools that I have acquired over a lifetime of challenges which I now embrace as being critical components of my own personal evolution.


Lastly, I would like to share with the reader some advice that I have learned through nearly 40 years of trial and error:  ALLOW (don’t force) your-SELF to BE (“Try not!  You must DO!” – Yoda / Star-Wars) the very BEST version of your-SELF (and ONLY your-SELF) YourHigher Self” – without using any excuses for being anything less than your own, personal very BEST. To ALLOW yourself to succeed in this way you must first get out of your own way by not allowing yourself to be your own worst enemy through acts of self-sabotage:  If you are caught up in a “Shame Cycle” you MUST find a way to break that cycle [See the information about the “Cycle of Shame” and breaking this cycle below, on this page].  Once you succeed in breaking that cycle of shame and self-inflicted pain your initial peace and comfort will seem foreign and uncomfortable to you, which will be a distraction that can lead to a relapse in self-destructive behavior because those habits provide you with a feeling of familiarity, BUT YOU MUST HOLD TIGHT:  “Being at peace and feeling alright about feeling comfortable will seem completely natural to you soon enough.”  ~ Confucius



1. Stuck-points are points in one’s life when a traumatic event occurred which stopped you from moving forward with your emotional development.



Who I Will Become?


Bruce Lee said, “Empty your mind.  Be formless . . . (pause) . . . shapeless, like water.  Now you put water in a cup . . . (pause) . . . it BECOMES the cup.  (If) you put water into a bottle it BECOMES the bottle.  If you put water in a teapot it BECOMES the teapot.  Now water can flow or it can CRASH!  Be water, my friend.”  What Bruce Lee was essentially saying is that water adapts to its environment and it adapts to the situation at hand, and as human beings we must do the same.  However, what Bruce Lee did not explain is that water is “reactive,” not “responsive.”  A reaction is an intrinsic immediate response to any given situation.  In humans this reaction is a result of action by the part of the brain called the amygdala which (through a mechanism that has not yet been identified) selects one of the three following responses during a real or perceived emergency/threat:  Fight, Flight, or Freeze.  As humans, with enough training, practice, and practical experience we can choose to “respond” to situations by engaging an area of our brain called the prefrontal cortex.  By combining a living human being’s ability to respond to situations in an optimal and rational manner with the ability of water to immediately adapt to the environment (and the situation at hand) a unique concept surfaces:  Living Water.  According to Jesus Christ, He is Living Water.  The bible makes reference to the idea that by inviting the Holy Spirit into one’s life, the Holy Spirit EMPOWERS me to become ONE with the Living Water of Christ (in all that I CHOOSE to think, consequently FEEL, and consequently DO:  There are two important points to bring up about this concept:  #1.  It is logical to conclude that becoming one with Christ (God) is an infinite process of continuously and increasingly becoming more and more Christ-like.  #2.  THOUGHTS become FEELINGS which become BEHAVIOR which becomes HABITThought/s →  Emotion/s  → Behavior/s → Habit/s.  It is my goal to be infinitely and increasingly identified as being ONE with the Living Water of Christ in all that I THINK (cognitive), FEEL (emotional), and DO (action)!


Very Truthfully,

  • Disciple Dragon Snake
  • Dìzǐ Lóng Shé
  • 弟子龙蛇





A Holistic Healthy Diet:

A healthy diet is important for everyone including Martial Artists.  Please see this governmental, evidence-based website for insight into a healthy diet:

Holistic Healthy Diet.






Wing Chun as an Out-Branch of Buddhism:

Wing Chun is an out-branch of the discipline of Buddhism.  I do proclaim to be a traditional (not modernistic) Gnostic follower of Jesus Christ, but I subscribe to many Buddhist philosophical (not religious) principles.


There are several branches of Buddhism which are religious as well as philosophical.  For an online inquiry into the subject of Buddhism as a religion I encourage you to navigate to the following links:




Buddhism as a Philosophy:

Buddhism as a philosophy, rather than a religion, is quite simple:  Everything in this universe (and the likely infinite number of other universes) is continuously undergoing a state of drastic change.  Therefore any sense of a permanent “self” or identity is an illusion that brings with it an inherent state of suffering because we try to cling to things that we believe make us happy (or unhappy if you are addicted to sabotaging yourself) only to discover that these objects of our obsession are fleeting at best, not permanent.


To break free from this suffering one must realize that the only part of himself or herself that is eternal and infinite is one’s “life energy” also called “Qi” ¹ or “Chi” ¹ (This is a fact because it is proven that energy is neither created or destroyed, but only changes form). Since our only real “self” is that of energy, we are in a continuous state of change, so to succeed in changing in a positive way rather than in a negative way, we must embrace this continuous change and GUIDE this change towards the goal of PEACE rather the goal of happiness or unhappiness.


1:  My theory is that when Christians refer to humans as having a “soul” and Buddhists refer to a person’s “Qi” or “Chi,” each group of people from the two different religions are speaking of the same entity.


This guidance is achieved through the art of mindful meditation.  This consists of both meditation while holding still and the meditation of motion. Happiness and suffering are temporary states of being which are always tied or attached to a temporary situation, whereas PEACE can be an eternal and infinite goal. Refer to the concept of the external and internal pendulum demonstrated here:

If the inner pendulum of one’s internal Qi is at the far left of the pendulum’s range of motion the person will experience joyful, euphoric happiness and bliss, but if the inner pendulum of one’s internal Qi is at the extreme right of the pendulum’s range of motion the person will feel imminent doom, suffering, and misery.  The external pendulum is not under our control because it swings from left to right due to the external circumstances of life that we find ourselves undergoing even when we are behaving in ways that would seem to bring about good “karma,” but through a mindful, meditative mindset we can allow (not force) our inner pendulums to be infinitely, increasingly, and continuously encroaching upon stillness at the very center of the inner pendulum’s range of motion, which is where truly profound inner peace is found.


While zero movement of the inner pendulum (“Absolute Peace” or “Divine Peace”), right in the very center of the pendulum’s range of motion, is mathematically impossible because calculus proves that zero movement can never be obtained, it is still very possible to infinitely, continuously, and increasingly encroach upon zero movement (shown below in a logarithmic manner) of the inner pendulum in the very center of the pendulum’s range of motion.  Hopefully this concept is easy for the reader to grasp intellectually, although I acknowledge that translating this concept from an academic understanding into real action and real results is a much more difficult task:  I still struggle with this task to this very day.


Logarithmic Approach Towards Zero Movement of the Inner Pendulum:


Although a Buddhist from a country in which Buddhism is the native religion (and thus is an indoctrinated component of one’s culture) would probably have a drastically different perspective on what fundamental philosophical Buddhism is really about than what I have just described, the above explanation of philosophical Buddhism is the best I can do.  This concludes my discussion on the philosophy of Buddhism, except to say that by the time the words “I am a Buddhist” exit one’s mouth, the probability that the individual has already changed into something else is quite high, thereby making the last statement antiquated.





Jesus Christ and Buddha:



Jesus Christ Appearing to His Disciples:

Jesus Christ Appearing to His Disciples


Jesus Christ on the Cross:



Buddha Under the Bodhi Tree:

Buddha is a Pali word which means “The awakened one.” Someone who has woken up to the truth of the mind and suffering and teaches the truth to others is called a “Buddha.” The word “Buddha” often means the historical Buddha named Buddha Shakyamuni (Siddhartha Gautama). Buddhists do not believe that a Buddha is a god, but that he was a human being who had woken up and could see the true way the mind works. Buddhists believe this knowledge totally changes the person. This person can help others become enlightened too. Enlightened people are beyond birth, death, and rebirth. Who was the first Buddha? According to Buddhism, there were countless Buddhas before Gautama Buddha and there will be many Buddhas after him. This picture is named “Female Buddha Under a Bodhi Tree During Enlightenment.” During this enlightenment she found that through fasting and meditation she obtained a profoundly deep sense of peace. Upon discovering this she vowed to spend the rest of her life teaching this insight to others. There is a Buddha in every woman.. . . . . . . . . . . WING CHUN KUNG FU MARTIAL ARTS TEACHING / TRAINING / TUTORING / LESSONS IN KANSAS CITY / NORTH KANSAS CITY / CLAY COMO / GLADSTONE / CLAY COUNTY / JACKSON COUNTY.
Buddha is a Pali word which means “The awakened one.” Someone who has woken up to the truth of the mind and suffering and teaches the truth to others is called a “Buddha.” The word “Buddha” often means the historical Buddha named Buddha Shakyamuni (Siddhartha Gautama). Buddhists do not believe that a Buddha is a god, but that he was a human being who had woken up and could see the true way the mind works. Buddhists believe this knowledge totally changes the person. This person can help others become enlightened too. Enlightened people’s energy or “Chi” (Qi) is beyond birth, death, and rebirth because according to Albert Einstein energy can neither be created nor destroyed; it merely changes forms. Who was the first Buddha? According to Buddhism, there were countless Buddhas before Gautama Buddha and there will be many Buddhas after him. This picture is named “Female Buddha Under a Bodhi Tree During Enlightenment.” During this enlightenment she found that through fasting and meditation she obtained a profoundly deep sense of peace. Upon discovering this she vowed to spend the rest of her life teaching this insight to others. I believe that there is a Buddha in every man & woman, but this Buddha needs to be brought to light through proper guidance.








(Guided) Progressive Relaxation, Mindful Meditation,

Positive Affirmation, and Spiritual Baptism

to Renew the Mind, Body, & Soul:

[Based off of Christian faith & Buddhist philosophy].


Scripted Mantra:

This scripted mantra is embedded below, to listen to until you have the scripted mantra memorized well enough to say it (silently or aloud) while meditating.  You may choose to change the wording of this scripted mantra to fit your individual needs.  The passage is broken up (by numbers) to indicate that the words are to be said slowly upon one’s exhale (silently or aloud), followed by a quiet, deep inspiration.  Then exhale slowly as you say the next few words of the mantra on that “line number.”  Do not become overly-fixated on how long each inspiration or exhalation should last, but keep in mind that the slower you inhale and exhale (as long as it doesn’t cause any shortness of breath), the more relaxing, meditative, and therapeutic this practice will be for you.  Upon exhalation one ought to focus on those parts of the body relaxing and feeling heavier as if they are sinking into your chair, bed, or whatever it is that is supporting youThis scripted mantra and associated sound-wave is designed to be a meditation of stillness, NOT a meditation of motion, so it is critically important to sit back or lay on a well supported surface that will not allow you to fall off of it if you fall asleep.  Obviously this scripted mantra and its associated meditation should NEVER be practiced or listened to while DRIVING, operating MACHINERY, or any other activity that requires you to be alert and attentive for the reason of safety precautions.


  1. “Lord,” (INHALE DEEPLY while being silent), then say . . .

  2. “I can feel”  (EXHALE DEEPLY while saying this)


  4. “YOUR warm”  (EXHALE DEEPLY while saying this)


  6. “living

  7. baptizing

  8. peaceful

  9. water

  10. flowing through

  11. my feet

  12. legs

  13. thighs

  14. and hips

  15. as they become

  16. heavier

  17. and heavier

  18. and heavier

  19. and my Chi

  20. flows deeper

  21. and deeper

  22. and deeper

  23. into a state

  24. of completely renewed

  25. redefined

  26. recreated

  27. deeply rooted

  28. mindful

  29. meditative

  30. inner peace

  31. in YOUR image & likeness . . .

  32. I can feel

  33. YOUR warm

  34. living

  35. baptizing

  36. peaceful

  37. water

  38. flowing through

  39. my hips

  40. lower-back & abdomen

  41. middle-back & diaphragm

  42. upper-back and chest

  43. traps & shoulders

  44. as my entire torso

  45. becomes heavier

  46. and heavier

  47. and heavier

  48. and my Chi

  49. flows deeper

  50. and deeper

  51. and deeper

  52. into a state

  53. of completely renewed

  54. redefined

  55. recreated

  56. deeply rooted

  57. mindful

  58. meditative

  59. inner peace

  60. in YOUR image & likeness . . .

  61. I can feel

  62. YOUR warm

  63. living

  64. baptizing

  65. peaceful

  66. water

  67. flowing through

  68. my trapezius

  69. shoulders

  70. upper-arms

  71. forearms

  72. and hands

  73. as they become

  74. heavier

  75. and heavier

  76. and heavier

  77. and my Chi

  78. flows deeper

  79. and deeper

  80. and deeper

  81. into a state

  82. of completely renewed

  83. redefined

  84. recreated

  85. deeply rooted

  86. mindful

  87. meditative

  88. inner peace

  89. in YOUR image & likeness . . .

  90. I can feel

  91. YOUR warm

  92. living

  93. baptizing

  94. peaceful

  95. water

  96. flowing through

  97. my shoulders

  98. trapezius

  99. through my neck

  100. across my scalp

  101. through my forehead and eyes

  102. to mouth and jaw

  103. and across my face

  104. as my head becomes

  105. heavier

  106. and heavier

  107. and heavier

  108. and my Chi

  109. flows deeper

  110. and deeper

  111. and deeper

  112. into a state

  113. of completely renewed

  114. redefined

  115. recreated

  116. deeply rooted

  117. mindful

  118. meditative

  119. inner peace

  120. in YOUR image & likeness . . .

  121. I can feel

  122. YOUR warm

  123. living

  124. baptizing

  125. peaceful

  126. water

  127. flowing through

  128. my mind

  129. as it cleanses and purifies my thoughts

  130. washing away

  131. all thoughts that are not of YOU

  132. as my whole body

  133. becomes heavier

  134. and heavier

  135. and heavier

  136. and my Chi

  137. flows deeper

  138. and deeper

  139. and deeper

  140. into a state

  141. of completely renewed

  142. redefined

  143. recreated

  144. deeply rooted

  145. mindful

  146. meditative

  147. inner peace

  148. in YOUR image & likeness . . .

  149. I can feel

  150. YOUR Grace

  151. pouring continuously down upon me

  152. drowning me

  153. in unconditional love

  154. acceptance

  155. and complete forgiveness

  156. as I am repentant for all past sins

  157. I lay myself to rest

  158. into YOUR protective hands

  159. as a completely renewed

  160. redefined

  161. recreated

  162. deeply rooted

  163. mindful

  164. meditative

  165. expression

  166. of YOUR peace

  167. in the form of living water

  168. that readily adapts

  169. to its environment

  170. by effortlessly flowing

  171. straight through

  172. all obstacles

  173. challenges

  174. and adversity of any kind

  175. without internalizing any

  176. pain

  177. shame

  178. sorrow

  179. or fear

  180. (and I do so

  181. with ease and gracefulness)

  182. because my inner pendulum of emotion and experience

  183. grows

  184. continuously and increasingly

  185. more still

  186. where true peace resides.

  187. Through the power

  188. of the Holy Spirit

  189. I continuously and increasingly

  190. become one

  191. with YOU; the living water of Christ

  192. in ALL that I CHOOSE to THINK

  193. consequently FEEL

  194. and consequently DO . . .

  195. I AFFIRM

  196. that I will

  197. ALLOW my-SELF

  198. to BE

  199. the very BEST

  200. version of my-SELF,

  201. which is my Higher Self,

  202. without any excuses

  203. for being anything LESS

  204. than my very OWN personal BEST.

  205. And it is SO.

  206. PEACE be STILL.

  207. Thank you Father God

  208. Thank you, my Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ

  209. and thank YOU, The Holy Spirit.

  210. Amen.”



Guided Progressive Relaxation, Mindful Meditation, Positive Affirmation, & Spiritual Baptism:











Psychosocial Concepts, and Coping Strategies that I have Learned:








The SMART Recovery program:


The SMART Recovery program uses scientifically founded principles to aid you in your recovery from ANY addictive behavior.  It can be used in combination with professional therapy, with groups like AA and SA, or used by itself.  Most of us suffer from SOME type of addictive behavior even if it is as benign as exercising too much; SMART Recovery can help you. Their website is at https://www.smartrecovery.org/.






Erikson’s Eight Stages of Life:

[Click {HERE} for an In-Depth Discussion of Erikson’s Eight Stages of Life].


Trust vs. Mistrust:

From birth to 12 months of age, infants must learn that adults can be trusted. This occurs when adults meet a child’s basic needs for survival. Infants are dependent upon their caregivers, so caregivers who are responsive and sensitive to their infant’s needs help their baby to develop a sense of trust; their baby will see the world as a safe, predictable place. Unresponsive caregivers who do not meet their baby’s needs can engender feelings of anxiety, fear, and mistrust; their baby may see the world as unpredictable.  If infants are treated cruelly or their needs are not met appropriately, they will likely grow up with a sense of mistrust for people in the world.


Autonomy vs. Shame/Doubt:

As toddlers (ages 1–3 years) begin to explore their world, they learn that they can control their actions and act on their environment to get results. They begin to show clear preferences for certain elements of the environment, such as food, toys, and clothing. A toddler’s main task is to resolve the issue of autonomy vs. shame and doubt by working to establish independence. This is the “me do it” stage. For example, we might observe a budding sense of autonomy in a 2-year-old child who wants to choose her clothes and dress herself. Although her outfits might not be appropriate for the situation, her input in such basic decisions has an effect on her sense of independence. If denied the opportunity to act on her environment, she may begin to doubt her abilities, which could lead to low self-esteem and feelings of shame.


Initiative vs. Guilt:

Once children reach the preschool stage (ages 3–6 years), they are capable of initiating activities and asserting control over their world through social interactions and play. According to Erikson, preschool children must resolve the task of initiative vs. guilt.By learning to plan and achieve goals while interacting with others, preschool children can master this task. Initiative, a sense of ambition and responsibility, occurs when parents allow a child to explore within limits and then support the child’s choice. These children will develop self-confidence and feel a sense of purpose. Those who are unsuccessful at this stage—with their initiative misfiring or stifled by over-controlling parents—may develop feelings of guilt.


Industry vs. Inferiority:

During the elementary school stage (ages 6–12 years), children face the task of industry vs. inferiority. Children begin to compare themselves with their peers to see how they measure up. They either develop a sense of pride and accomplishment in their schoolwork, sports, social activities, and family life, or they feel inferior and inadequate because they feel that they don’t measure up. If children do not learn to get along with others or have negative experiences at home or with peers, an inferiority complex might develop into adolescence and adulthood.


Identity vs. Role Confusion:

In adolescence (ages 12–18 years), children face the task of identity vs. role confusion. According to Erikson, an adolescent’s main task is developing a sense of self. Adolescents struggle with questions such as “Who am I?” and “What do I want to do with my life?” Along the way, most adolescents try on many different selves to see which ones fit; they explore various roles and ideas, set goals, and attempt to discover their “adult” selves. Adolescents who are successful at this stage have a strong sense of identity and are able to remain true to their beliefs and values in the face of problems and other people’s perspectives. When adolescents are apathetic, do not make a conscious search for identity, or are pressured to conform to their parents’ ideas for the future, they may develop a weak sense of self and experience role confusion. They will be unsure of their identity and confused about the future. Teenagers who struggle to adopt a positive role will likely struggle to “find” themselves as adults.


Intimacy vs. Isolation:

People in early adulthood (20’s through early 40’s) are concerned with intimacy vs. isolation. After we have developed a sense of self in adolescence, we are ready to share our life with others. However, if other stages have not been successfully resolved, young adults may have trouble developing and maintaining successful relationships with others. Erikson said that we must have a strong sense of self before we can develop successful intimate relationships. Adults who do not develop a positive self-concept in adolescence may experience feelings of loneliness and emotional isolation.


Generativity vs. Stagnation:

When people reach their 40’s, they enter the time known as middle adulthood, which extends to the mid-60’s. The social task of middle adulthood is generativity vs. stagnation. Generativity involves finding your life’s work and contributing to the development of others through activities such as volunteering, mentoring, and raising children. During this stage, middle-aged adults begin contributing to the next generation, often through childbirth and caring for others; they also engage in meaningful and productive work which contributes positively to society. Those who do not master this task may experience stagnation and feel as though they are not leaving a mark on the world in a meaningful way; they may have little connection with others and little interest in productivity and self-improvement.


Integrity vs. Despair:

From the mid-60’s to the end of life, we are in the period of development known as late adulthood. Erikson’s task at this stage is called integrity vs. despair. He said that people in late adulthood reflect on their lives and feel either a sense of satisfaction or a sense of failure. People who feel proud of their accomplishments feel a sense of integrity, and they can look back on their lives with few regrets. However, people who are not successful at this stage may feel as if their life has been wasted. They focus on what “would have,” “should have,” and “could have” been. They face the end of their lives with feelings of bitterness, depression, and despair.






Schema-Shifts” and “Stuck-Points” as they relate to Erikson’s Eight Stages of Life (above):

Erickson’s Eight Stages of life, as depicted in the link above, are stages of life that a person should transition through thereby successfully ending each stage of life on a “positive note” and then transitioning to the next stage of life.  When some kind of traumatic event occurs in one’s process of maturation through these stages of life the person can become “stuck” (“Stuck Point”) in an earlier stage of life and therefore unable to progress through the following stages of life successfully.  The KEY to getting unstuck is to process that area of trauma in one’s life under professional guidance (there is an alternative modality for this processing which is described under the “Shame Cycle” below which may be used by those who do not have access to professional therapy), and then the person needs to implement a “schema-shift” which causes the person to undertake a healthier perspective on the original trauma that occurred in the person’s life and undergo schema-shifts on all other related but subsequent stuck-points that are noted throughout the person’s life.


A “schema-shift” is easily understood as a change in one’s perspective, but much harder to implement than it is to explain because when one’s schema supports an idea that has been strongly implanted in one’s mind the idea becomes a “conviction.”  After the “conviction” is firmly in place, the natural tendency of the human mind is to allow supporting evidence which reaffirms that conviction – to pass through our “mental concept crusher.”  The “mental concept crusher’s” job is to determine whether ideas make it into our minds or crush the idea (reject the idea because it does not support our convictions).  The only way to alter one’s convictions is override the mental concept crusher by objectively making a determination about the merit of ideas that do not support our convictions.


For example, a patient may think that a supervisor at work is abusive because that supervisor’s behavior is somewhat similar to the patient’s parent’s behavior, and that patient may consider his or her parents behavior to have been abusive, and this patient may view his or her parents as being demonic as well. (conviction #1).  Therefore, the patient calls into work sick frequently to avoid subjecting his or herself to what she or he interprets as abuse by a demonic supervisor (conviction #2).  In this case the original traumatic event needs to be analyzed under professional guidance.  After analyzing the original trauma through professional guidance that patient’s perspective on his or her parental abuse may change such that the patient concludes that yes, indeed, she or he was abused as a child, but not because his or her parents were inherently demonic, but rather, because that patient’s parents were mentally ill.  So the first schema-shift has taken place.  The next schema-shift may be that the patient realizes that the supervisor at work is not even thoughtful enough to realize that his or her behavior could be interpreted as abusive because the supervisor is completely lacking in any and all personal insight.  Then an overall schema-shift occurs when the patient concludes that the supervisor’s behavior is not intended to be abusive at all, but that the supervisor’s behavior is just not insightful.





The Five Languages of Love:

Although this definition of “love” is not exhaustive by any means, it is a great place to start at when attempting to define an abstract emotion such as love:

Love is a what I refer to as “validation of one’s identification.  The following forms of identification may not all be present when you love someone or something, but chances are that the “object of your love” or “your passion in life” has at least one of the following forms of identification:

  1.   Physical Identification.
  2.   Cognitive (intellectual) Identification.
  3.   Emotional Identification.
  4.   Spiritual Identification.

It now becomes necessary to define the term identification:  When you identify with someone or something, you either see some of yourself in the “object of your love” or “your passion in life,” or you see some of what you desire to become (potential) in the “object of your love” or “your passion in life.”

When the object of your love is a person, then communication of the love you give to that person and the love that you receive from that person is typically communicated in one of the five love languages (Gary Chapman):

  1. Physical touch.
  2. Quality time.
  3. Acts of service.
  4. Gifts.
  5. Words of affirmation/validation.

It is important to understand that when asking the following inquiries of yourself and your loved one/s, that there may be only one form of love language present in the answer to the question, or there may be more that one love language present in the answer to the question; even all five of these may be present, but there may be a hierarchy of importance in terms of ranking them from the most provided &/or needed to the least provided &/or needed:

  1. Which of these languages of love do YOU most like to receive from a loved one?
  2. Which of these languages of love do YOU most like to provide to a loved one?
  3. Which of these languages of love does your loved one like to receive?
  4. Which of these languages of love does your loved one like to provide?

The best way to find out the answers to these questions is through introspection, observation, and quality communication.






Grounding Skills that Facilitate Mindfulness and Counteract Anxiety

Grounding skills and mindfulness are methods by which you bring your mind fully into this very moment without dwelling on the past or worrying about the future.  They typically mandate that you make use of your senses such as sight, hearing, touch, smell, and taste.


  1. Controlled breathing:  While deliberately focusing on each breath, breathe in one of the following manners that most effectively reduces your anxiety.
    1.   There are several methods of this, but the one that has been researched the most and has shown to be most effective in those who struggle from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder  / PTSD (which is probably also the most effective for those who suffer from any kind of anxiety) is called the “4, 4, 4 method” or the “4, 4, 4, 4 method.”  There are varied professional opinions on which of these methods is most effective so I suggest that you try each one of them for at least 20 minutes a day for about three days before you decide which one helps you the most.
      1.  Method One:  Inhale for 4 seconds, exhale for 4 seconds, and then hold your breath for four seconds, then start over at the beginning (This is the most common version of this breathing technique).
      2.  Method Two:  Inhale for 4 seconds, hold your breath for 4 seconds, then exhale for 4 seconds, then start over at the beginning.
      3.  Method Three:  Inhale for 4 seconds, hold your breath for 4 seconds, exhale for 4 seconds then hold your breath for 4 seconds, then start over at the beginning.
    2.   The other popular breathing technique is the “4, 7, 8 Breathing Technique” which has not been researched as much but many people use it very effectively:
        1.  Exhale completely through your mouth, making a whoosh sound.
        2.  Close your mouth and inhale quietly through your nose to a mental count of 4 seconds.
        3.  Hold your breath for a count of 7 seconds.
        4.  Exhale completely through your mouth, making a whoosh sound to a count of 8 seconds.
  2.   Identify and silently describe 5 things that you see.  The more detailed you are in this silent description, the more engaged your mind becomes in the present moment, and thus the more calming this skill becomes.
  3.   Identify and silently describe 4 things that you hear.
  4.   Identify and silently describe 3 things that you feel:  Keep a “totem” in your pocket and gently palpate the totem noticing its texture, shape, and temperature as you palpate it.  Note:  In this particular use of the word “totem” it means a small object with e textured surface and varied shape.  The totem may also have personal meaning to you that you associate with it such as a “Celtic Cross.”
  5.   Identify and silently describe two things that you can smell.
  6.   Identify and silently describe 1 thing that you taste:  Keeping a small sandwich-bag of sour (very good at grabbing your attention) candy is very helpful for this activity.




The Trust Spectrum:

Too often we judge whether or not we can trust ourselves and others by using a binary trust decision which results in either “yes, I can trust” this person, or “no, I cannot trust” this person.  A higher functioning person places people where they appropriately belong on a trust spectrum.  For example, if “0” is equal to no trust, and “10” is equal to complete trust, then you break your interaction with that person (or yourself) into categories of trust and rate that person accordingly.  Categories of trust are areas of interaction with that person within your life such as finances, family, use of your property, job related issues, issues concerning safety, and so forth.  What you will most likely discover is that some people can be trusted to a great extent in certain categories / areas of your interaction with that person, but cannot be trusted very much in other categories / areas of your interaction with that person.  Then you are determining your trust in that person on a full spectrum rather than a simplistic (binary – all or nothing) “trustworthy” or “untrustworthy” conclusion.






The Cycle of Shame (“The Shame Cycle” / “The Shame Wheel”):

The Cycle of Shame, possible dysfunctional behavior, shame as an identity, & professional therapeutic intervention.
The Cycle of Shame or the “Shame Cycle” is a process by which one assumes shame as an identity.  Typically it is initiated by a childhood trauma that the victim incorrectly assumes responsibility for, but not always.


By professional and therapeutic processing of the original trauma, the victim can either avoid assuming “shame” as an identity which prevents any further trauma from occurring, or if the original victim has already assumed “shame” as an identity, this person has the opportunity to release his or her shame and guilt through a variety professional therapeutic modalities thereby freeing himself or herself from repeating the cycle which will ultimately result in secondary trauma if the original victim is not provided with an opportunity to process his or her own trauma and shame under professional and therapeutic guidance.


IMPORTANT:  If circumstances are such that the person who is caught up in the cycle of shame is unable to acquire professional guidance, it is still possible to break the cycle of shame by confessing your memories of trauma and all of your secrets and wrong doings in a letter that is hand-written to God (“hand written” is a critical part of the emotional processing), then read the letter out-loud to God. Then boldly PROCLAIM:  #1.  Your forgiveness for those who have harmed you (and mean it).  #2.  Your desire to COMPLETELY REPENT ¹ and live a healthy, well-rounded, wholesome life of integrity, to God.  Burn the letter as a way of officially saying goodbye to your past.  FORGIVE YOURSELF & extend GRACE to those who wronged you and to yourself for anything and everything that you feel responsible for in your past (regardless of whether the responsibility actually belonged to you or not).  Then proceed to make living a healthy life of sobriety (no longer feeding your addiction) and behaving in an ethical manner using prudent discretion at all times – your very highest priority in your life by using the power of affirmative prayer about these matters several times every day and living your life in a devote manner.


Once you succeed in breaking that cycle of shame and self-inflicted pain your initial peace and comfort will seem foreign and uncomfortable to you, which will be a distraction that can lead to a relapse in self-destructive behavior because those habits provide you with a feeling of familiarity, BUT YOU MUST HOLD TIGHT:  “Being at peace and feeling alright about feeling comfortable will seem completely natural to you soon enough.”  ~ Confucius


1:  To REPENT is to do two things:  #1.  Stop doing that which is harmful or potentially harmful to yourself and/or others (sin).  #2.  Proceed FORWARD in your life by doing the exact opposite of the sin that you were committing. 


Helpfull Songs During Repentance:








The Reservoir of Positive Personal Identity:

Metaphorically speaking, we each have a reservoir which holds such attributes as a positive self-identity.  We typically acquire the ability to “fill our own reservoirs” with positive energy that allows us to continue to view ourselves from a positive perspective, and we typically acquire this ability by having positive role-models as we were growing up, who did the very same thing for themselves, so we learned how to have a positive perspective on ourselves from watching our parental and leadership role models take great care of themselves and us.

If you grew up without positive role models who inversely demeaned you, then the negative energy that they poured into your reservoir was highly  acidic and this erosive acid burned a hole in the bottom of your personal reservoir which  is so huge that even when someone in your adult life continuously fills you up with positive energy, you quickly run out of positive energy the moment that person is either temporarily or permanently unavailable.  For example, a grown man who was abused as a child may end up having a very bad personal reservoir leak which causes his wife to have to be continuously present to pour positive energy into his personal reservoir, but if she leaves to go to work for the day and he is left alone, then he suffers from very classic “separation anxiety.”

Personal reservoir leaks are repaired by processing the emotional trauma that was incurred under the supervision of a qualified and highly experienced therapist.  This is only half of the battle, however.  The next step is that this person who initially presented with a leaking personal reservoir must now learn how to fill up his or her own reservoir with positive energy by exploring the positive attributes of his or her own personality, taking great physical, emotional, cognitive, and spiritual care of himself or herself, living a well-rounded and balanced lifestyle, and exploring a variety of healthy activities to invest his or her  free time in.  This process of self-discovery takes time.







The concept of “Wise-Mind” is very simple.  I will explain this concept by using a stereotype for the purpose of simplicity.  The stereotypical male is a logical thinker who typically becomes angry when his wife, who is stereo-typically an emotional thinker, will not “admit” that he is “right” because he is thinking logically.  The stereotypical woman gets even more upset by his thought pattern and his behavior because it very clearly communicates to her that her husband does not care about her feelings.  “Wise-Mind” is when the logical thinker and the emotional thinker “meet in the middle.”  The logical thinker uses EMPATHY to do his very best to understand how his wife FEELS about the topic of discussion because he loves her and because he honestly wants to resolve the dispute in a mature and thoughtful manner.  Simultaneously, the emotional thinker uses EMPATHY to do her best to see things from her husband’s logical perspective.  Once the thinking of the logical-minded person and the thinking of the emotionally oriented thinker overlap each other, this overlapping of thoughts is called the “Wise-Mind.”  “Wise-Mind” is where problems can be solved from an empathetic, mature, and reasonable perspective.  Wise-Mind requires a prefrontal cortex – well thought out – RESPONSE instead of a “knee-jerk” REACTION.  Just because someone is factually correct does not mean that their ideas are inherently more valuable than the ideas of a more emotionally minded person, and likewise just because something feels emotionally correct does not guarantee that it is the ethical decision to make.  The overlapping of empathetic minds is where fair, reasonable, mature decisions can be made.







The “Higher Self” and “Self-Actualization:”

Although this is a very simple concept to understand from an academic standpoint it is also the single hardest endeavor that mankind has ever set-out upon accomplishing:  You will know when you have achieved “self-actualization” when you consistently and continuously function as the very BEST version of your-SELF (without trying to pretend to be anyone else and without trying to fill anyone else’s boots), and NOTHING LESS than your VERY BEST.  People who functioned at this level include people such as Jesus Christ, Buddha, & Mother Teresa, while other people who came VERY CLOSE to functioning at this level are the likes of Martin Luther King, and Gandhi.  The obtainment of “Self-Actualization was described by Abraham Maslow.  To read more about Self Actualization, please refer to the following link:  Maslow’s Concept of “Self-Actualization” & the “Higher-Self.”


Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs:








My son told me, “Dad, I think I might try to learn to play basketball this summer.”  I replied, “Don’t even put your shoes on because you have already failed at playing basketball.”  He responded, “How? . . . I haven’t even tried yet.”  I said, “There you failing again.  Look,  are you listening to what you are saying?”  Then I clarified, I think = 1 Fail, I might = 2 fails, Try = 3 fails, and then there is a hidden failure in that sentence.”  He said, “Oh” and looked up at the ceiling and said, “I am going to learn to play basketball this summer.”  I said, “Very good!  However that hidden failure is still in there.”  He thought for a moment and yelled, “I am GOING to PLAY basketball this summer!”  “Congratulations” I answered.










Personal Photos:











My Wife:










My Sīfú (私服), Brenden Estrada:












Me Serving My Sīfú (私服) as His Wedding Officiant:









My Sīfú’s Dearly Loved but Departed Mother, Johnna:










My Sīfú’s Father, Joseph Estrada, with Sīfú Brenden Estrada as a Child on the Left, and his Brother Ryan on the Right:











My Dearly Loved but Departed Uncle, Battalion Fire Chief, John Tvedten:









Thank you:

Thank you for taking the time to get to know a LOT about me. I hope that the holistic approach that I have used on this page ends up being exactly what you need to be a well-rounded, holistically minded, healthy and productive person who serves the greater good by functioning as your “Higher Self” in a manner that is indicative of one who is “Self-Actualized.”



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Thank you for your interest:

Sincerely with honor,

Disciple Dragon Snake

Dìzǐ Lóng Shé



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